F is for Forgotten. You know how you sometimes feel like people see you but they don’t see you? Lately, that’s how I feel. I am the forgotten one. I think I put myself in that place a lot of times because I’m a natural introvert and I don’t seek the spotlight. Part of me wants people to notice me and screams, “Hey! I’m right here!” But then when I get in the spotlight, I shrink back from it like the shy violet that I am until I’m around my familiar group of people, and then I look like this:
When people ask me, vaguely, about my day, I’ve learned they don’t mean it. They don’t want to know about how my son refused to put his shoes on in the morning, making me later than I wanted to be, even if I tell a funny story about it with my dry humor that probably makes them think I’m being glum. They don’t care to hear about deep meaningful observations about the plight of our special education program or about how tired I am. What they want to hear, really, is “fine” or, better, “Great! How about you?” So, what questions do people forget to ask? Better yet, what have I never had asked before?
Five Things No One Ever Asks Me:
- What do you think about this schedule?
- How how are you, really?
- How is Big Guy? (Because usually they ask about Squeaker)
- Would you like to talk?
- Would you like to go to Starbucks, on me? (in my dreams)
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Deep, thought-provoking questions are once in a life-time, right? Getting more than a, “how’s it going?” from someone happens rarely. But that’s kind of the shallow life I lead. I cover that more in my entry on How Autism Moms Lose Friends and Alienate People.
But if you really want to know more about me, just ask. Because no one ever asked me before.
What questions do you wish people would ask you, but no one ever has?
Originally posted 2015-04-07 08:00:00.