I think we use the word “need” in life a lot as if it’s interchangeable with the word “want.” I think that everyone’s needs and wants differ, though. What I might consider a want might actually exist as a need in someone else’s life. Who am I to judge, right? Okay, so maybe it’s still not really a need. We, as a society, probably live a bit selfishly. True needs? Food. Water. Air. Shelter. Right? But, in order to live happily, sometimes we indulge. Sometimes. But then, there are things, right or wrong, that we just can’t get enough of. This is my list:
- Love. I need to know that I am loved. I also need others to know that I love them. Nothing sucks more than feeling unloved.
- Appreciation. I have an undying need to know that people appreciate what I do or at least acknowledge my accomplishments. For the record, this hardly ever happens. I’m thankful that many of my other needs are met, at least.
- Hugs, especially from my children. I don’t mind not getting kisses. I love hugs because they’re less likely to include slobber. Hugs = warm and secure.
- Good books. If they make me think about life or society in some meaningful way, all the better. I love to think. Psychological books, memoires, true crime, and books about teaching are my faves.
- Sleep. I truly never get enough of it, and I always need more.
- Time. You know the song “Time is on My Side”? Well, it’s pretty much the opposite for me. Time and I do not get along these days.
- Good food. Wholesome stuff. Stuff that I can make at home easily that makes me feel nourished and happy inside. I’ll take suggestions here. 🙂
- Beautiful walks on nature trails. I love feeling inspired by nature.
- Adventure. And I don’t get to seek this side of myself often enough, either, but the thrill-seeker inside of me screams “let me out!” My body hurts for days afterward, but I totally need to feel alive every now and then. Every now and then, going for a good hike in the right shoes is enough for me, though.
- Respect. It sounds a lot like appreciation because the first part of the definition of respect is “admire deeply,” but if you look deeper, to respect someone also means to “have due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of” and to “avoid harming” something (or someone). And perhaps I don’t need “deep admiration.” I’m not conceited. I’d have to get a lot more respect to acquire that level of conceit. However, I fully believe that survival in this world requires some level of feeling of respect from others. And that, my friends, will finish my list of things I can’t get enough of. Because I simply don’t get it from people. Perhaps because I don’t command respect. Maybe I don’t ask for it enough. Maybe people don’t feel I deserve it. Maybe I give in too easily. But it certainly would feel good to have it.
Originally posted 2014-06-24 16:47:34.