I think we can all agree that having appropriate social skills is important for every person to possess. As such, I’ve come up with a list of appropriate social skills to work on with your child or for yourself.
Appropriate Social Skills
Here are some appropriate social skills to work on with your child. They’re broken down into categories.
Emotions During Social Situations
In social situations, you’ve got to act fun to be fun. These are important social skills because you want others to have fun around you to make friends.
- Staying calm when talking to others
- Keeping strong emotions in check
- Expressing interest in others
- Redirect negative emotions into positive emotions
Making Connections During Communication
In social situations, making connections by mirroring others can important.
- Making noises like you’re listening “Yeah, Uh-huh, Really? etc.”
- Reiterating what you’ve heard “So you’re saying…”
- Recalling what was said earlier, “Remember how you said…”
- Making eye contact and pointing your body toward the person speaking
- Listening actively
Expressing Interest in Others
These social skills require you to think less about you and more about the people you’re talking to.
- Expressing empathy with others
- Getting other people to talk by asking questions
- Forget about yourself and focus on others
Build a Rapport With People
Building a rapport with others requires you to really think about what other people are thinking and feeling.
- Mirror the body language and movement of others
- Reflect the same emotions and tone of voice
- Give feedback on what you’ve heard
Establish Appropriate Self-Disclosure
When it comes to social skills, keep away from the TMI situation. Know when it’s okay to disclose and when it’s not.
- Know when not to give too much information
- Wait until you know someone well before disclosing deep personal secrets
- Don’t be afraid to express your specialties
Try not to be too mechanical and take deep breaths when you feel anxious around others. Above all, relaxing and having fun will allow you to make those connections you’ve been dying to have.
One more note about social skills
As someone who has social anxiety, I know it’s hard to express appropriate social skills sometimes. During these situations, I usually just listen and nod my head while I’m trying to think of something interesting to say. People want to feel like they’ve been heard, so make that your job when you’re talking to others. Above all, stay positive and keep the mood light.
I wish you luck on your journey with others!