When you’re raising two children and working full-time, carving out time for your relationship gets difficult. Raising a child who has some difficulties can make it even more difficult to put in time because you really devote all your time and attention to raising a healthy, happy child, preventing meltdowns, and keeping a stable routine. Finding suitable childcare and babysitters for nights out gets next to impossible and takes a lot of planning. We need to explain a whole routine, medications, and what makes both of our children tick (and what will set them off), before we can step foot out of the door. It’s kind of like getting a substitute teacher as a special education teacher–the amount of time I spend putting details into my sub plans makes me not want to take any time off of work. It’s just hard.
Fortunately, The Autism Society of North Carolina has an awesome camp they run every summer and Squeaker had the good fortune of getting selected again for the camp last year. He loves it there, and they take such good care of him there. The camp lasts five days, it’s overnight, and the kids learn skills there while having fun. This camp is one of the many reasons I walk for The Autism Society of North Carolina–they do so many wonderful things for our children. And because of this camp (and my husband’s parents taking our other son for a week), we actually got to go on our own journey–to a stronger relationship.
We spent the week in the mountains hiking, white water rafting, and sightseeing. Mostly, we just enjoyed each other’s company for an extended period of time–something we rarely ever do. We actually got time to relax and talk to each other without rushing off to pick up the kids. It was a gift, and I still got to call and check on my kids and see pictures of them while we were away, so I got the best of both worlds.
Making our relationship stronger is hard work sometimes. I won’t lie. Finding time for us makes it easier because we get to remember that we can have fun together. We do try to find time within the day, when I am not bringing work home, etc., where we cuddle together or just talk about our day, and those moments count too. It’s important to connect on a day-to-day basis. But, I love times like this past summer–and knowing that both of my children were in good hands while we had a good time with each other just made our time that much sweeter. That’s just part of our journey.
Welcome to Week 2 of Sunny Saturdays.
I want to give a shout-out to Sue at Sizzling Towards Sixty for participating in my very first week.
Please check out her post here:
I’d love to see more people linking up, please feel free to jump in and participate!
Here are this week’s prompts (choose one):
- What is something you are optimistic about?
- What is your greatest fear? How can you overcome it?
- What is your favorite journey?
Here are next week’s prompts:
(if you’re the planning type)
- What do you think people say to each other when you’re not around?
- What do you think about when you can’t fall asleep?
- Give an interpretation of one of your most recent dreams (Your interpretation – don’t look it up!).
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